Sara feels UNHEARD.
Sara has it all: Well-educated, good job, husband and children, beautiful home. She also has a lonely sadness that she can’t explain–and when she tries, nobody listens.
Sara feels UNSEEN.
Sara sits in meetings frustrated, biting her lip, because her supervisor just presented an idea and information that Sara created and shared.
Sara feels INVISIBLE.
The tape playing inside her head tells her she’s not good enough, not smart enough, or not talented enough to be in the spotlight.
Bill feels ALONE.
Bill comes home late and eats his cold dinner alone in front of the television. His wife and children have already eaten and moved into their bedrooms to study, talk on the phone, or surf the Web. It’s been a long day, and not one family member has even said, “Hello, how was your day?”
Bill feels UNAPPRECIATED.
Bill works hard, pays all the bills, and this is all the thanks he gets! He thinks, “I’ll find someone on that Website who will talk to me or whom I can watch. Then I’ll feel better.” Bill feels like nobody cares about him.
Brenda feels EXHAUSTED.
Brenda falls into her favorite chair in the darkening room not sure she even wants to eat dinner. Unable to concentrate on anything of value, she stares at the floor and wonders if she will make it through another day. “Maybe I’ll just go to bed; When I wake up things will be better or least they might be different.
Brenda feels STUCK.
Brenda’s family members live too far away to be of any help caring for her aging parents. All her siblings tell her what a great job she’s doing.
Brenda feels SPREAD THIN.
Brenda desperately wants to attend her grandchildren’s events without feeling guilty. Because she is anxiously listening for that “emergency or final call” about her parents, she is always on guard. Brenda is unable to focus on the moment and fully enjoy herself.
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”
― Leo Tolstoy
Therapy is the game changer!
When you realize you have NO control over others and the only person you can change is yourself…therapy can guide you on that game-changing path.
Sara wants to be happy. She wants to get credit for her ideas and work, but is afraid she won’t be liked and might even be perceived as a bitch if she stands up for herself and sets boundaries for others.
Those old mental tapes and her “girlfriends’ advice” keep her stuck!
Bill knows he wants to change his life, but isn’t sure how to make positive lasting changes. Bill knows women who have made amazing changes in their lives because of therapy, but he doesn’t want to appear weak or wussy.
Bill worries that he will eventually get caught by his wife when surfing forbidden sites or chat rooms, but the loneliness is overwhelming.
Brenda is caught in that “sandwich” time of life with aging parents pulling her towards an inevitable grief she feels unprepared to endure and an overwhelming desire to participate with life embodied in her full-throttle grandchildren.
Sara, Bill, and Brenda all want to change their lives.
Ready to change your life?
Sara made an appointment with me and a commitment to herself to seek the source of her negativity and sadness. Over several months we talked, we cried, and we laughed together; and Sara discovered just how intelligent, creative, and awesome she really is. Sara learned to use her voice, own her gifts and talents, and set boundaries for her boss, co-workers, friends, and even her family.
Bill’s first appointment was stressful, but I reassured him…that I would walk with him on his chosen journey to a healthier, happier life. Bill learned that therapy takes courage, hard work, and is not for the faint-hearted. Bill decided that his unmet expectations of others would no longer shove him into a dark hole where the only visible light was from a non-human television screen or computer monitor.
Brenda needed direction and balance. In our sessions together, we uncovered her deepest desires and connected them to a multiplicity of choices and resources. Brenda became a grand master of her actions while she learned to destroy her reactions.
Sara, Bill, and Brenda made the golden choice of commitment to unearth the diamonds of who they knew they were meant to be.
If you are ready to make your own commitment to yourself, reach out.
Sara, Bill, and Brenda stories are fictionalized composites of real clients whom I’ve helped.
Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.
― Rumi
Hi, I’m Judy.
Change is difficult, and most of us would rather suffer than change. I’ve made lots of changes throughout my life and understand the uncertainty, the grief of letting go, the what-ifs of negativity, and the eventual satisfaction of having made it through.
I won’t tell you what to do, but I will walk with you on your journey of change. I will listen to you, but, more importantly, I will hear you. I will see you, but, greater than that, I will know you. I will loyally walk with you through the peaks and valleys all the way to your desired destination.
